As humans we tend to downplay the amount of things that goes on in our brains. Every single action, every single breathe, every single step, every hellos and goodbyes, every ‘I love you’ even from the worst of persons, every yes and no, causes a ripple effect in our brain which affects a whole lot more than we think.
The reality is, we never know what anyone is going through. Some people might not show it, but they are going through a whole lot. They have a butt load of crap to deal with that some of us might not be able to comprehend. Why do you think people commit suicide? Even people that we least expect.
Depression is not about age, money or all that. It’s a disease that envelopes the minds of people, grows at a very rapid pace and does not show signs or symptoms till it is way too late. It’s not about facial expression or how outgoing someone is because even the person with the widest of smiles could turn around and hurt themselves. Someone described depression and said “Imagine drowning but seeing everyone around you breathing, that is what depression is like”.
We underestimate the power that comes with our tongue. Now, I’m not talking about how it affects us directly but instead how what we say affects others. Some people are on the very edge and all they need a single word from someone to push them over. Sometimes a simple ‘hi’, ‘how you doing?’, ‘sorry’, ‘you are beautiful’, could go a long way to brighten someone’s day. Sounds odd but most times you might not have to go the extra mile to make someone happy. You could take a simple and minute action and as meaningless as you may think that thing is, it might go a long way to make that other person happy.
Let’s face it, sometimes we find ourselves in situations that we can’t tell anyone about, so we bottle it in and think “I would rather let this rot inside me than let someone know what’s going on” and I totally get this because nowadays a higher number of people would rather judge you for what you are going through, than help you. The whole point of sharing a problem with someone you trust does not necessary mean that person has to find a solution to your said problem. Now I know you might be thinking ‘If the person is not providing a solution, what’s the point of sharing it in the first place?’ the truth is, you might have the solution already but you just need someone to calm you down enough for you to see the way out.
To be sincere, social media has caused more damage than good in recent times. We see people saying “they just want attention” when someone puts out an actual cry for help. The reality is, some people see social media as a platform where they can vent, so they would rather pour out all they are going through online, than face it in reality. They tend to drown themselves in the ‘web’ than take a breather in reality. Now, some people might actually understand this and try to help but others might see it as attention-seeking and instead of ignoring it, they go all malicious on that person, which is totally wrong. Here is a concept, you feel all someone wants is attention? Then by all means, ignore the person.
We all are different and we handle situations differently. You and I could be going through the same kind of situation and where you think doing ‘A’ would help, I might think, hol’up ‘B’ might be the right thing, and most times both ‘A’ and ‘B’ would work eventually. Its equivalent to mathematics, different formulas but we arrive at the same answer.
Over time I’ve realized that people sometimes do things not because they like it or whatnot but it’s because they see it as an escape from one thing or the other. For example, drinking, just like in the movies where we see someone going through hard times and the person tries to drown their sorrow in a bottle, people do this same thing in reality and cause you see them in that state, you think they are happy and having fun when in actual sense they are going through a lot.
Another thing is sex. Weird, but many people find sex as a form of ‘escape’. The excitement, adrenaline and other hormones that flow through their body within those few minutes blocks away whatever issue they have and instead of standing up to their fears, they would rather go on a journey of ‘serial sexing’.
There are a lot of ways people hide their pain but the real solution that has proven to work is to talk to someone. I know it is quite hard to see someone that would listen without judging one bit but trust me, there are many people out there that do not judge no matter what.
Depression is a real thing and it has claimed a lot of lives. It is not written on the face but a lot of people out there are going through it and what they need is someone that truly and genuinely cares.